Just a few thoughts of a Mother

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When I was a child, I never understood why my Mother always wanted to know where I am, where I was going, when will I return home,etc. I remember she always told me, she would take all the pain in the World if she could, so I wouldn’t have to feel hurt, sickness, sadness.. I never really understood that concern of hers, that constant fear and protection, She would tell me:” Just wait till you have your own kids, you will understand it and you will be the same. It’s how Mothers are.

And now, here I am, a Mother of two adorable children, a boy and a girl. They are less than one year apart, so they are almost like twins. And now I can say, I totally understand what my Mother told me. I understand Motherhood.

Life changed. Everything became more intense, THE LOVE, THE FEAR, SADNESS, JOY, PRIDE. It sometimes becomes overwhelming, it overtakes your whole being. With that also comes the fear of not being PERFECT. The pressure of being a perfect Mother, a perfect Wife can be a lot to take for a Woman.

There is no universal manual that would tell you all the secrets of Motherhood. We have to learn on our own. Being a Mother is a life-job, with a lot of sunshine and flowers but there has to be some rain and darkness, so we can grow and learn and appreciate what we have.

What I learned so far, is that it is good enough if I do my best. Not what others think is best, but what I think. I learned that it’s OK to make mistakes, as long as I learn from them. It’s OK to be perfectly imperfect. I learned that I and only I know my kids and their needs, so I can make decisions what is best for them.

I never want to lose myself as a person, as a Woman, because only then I can truly be happy, be healthy and with that joy inside of me I can take care of my family, their well-being, their happiness.

I know that Motherhood and parenting is a LIFELONG LEARNING EXPERIENCE. I have as much to give to my children as they can give back to me. We live, love and grow together. It never stops. It’s a circle of life.

What is your view on Motherhood? Please share your thoughts, comments..

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6 thoughts on “Just a few thoughts of a Mother

  1. Unfortunately I lost my mother young, so I don’t have the memories etc BUT I did have my Nan who was very much my mother and who like your own mother, wanted to know all of the latter. Being a mum of a 21 month old little girl now, I literally look up to every single mother on a daily basis. Motherhood brings so many more challenges and ‘stresses’ than I expected. I thought it would be simple once you got a little routine but we all know the children very much control and call the shots. Totally agree with your lessons learnt though, being OK and not absolutely fantastic every single day is more than enough. We need to give credit to us where credit is due. #bigpinklink

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    • Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience with us. That’s why I think it is important to talk about it, write about it, so that we then see, we’re not alone in our mixed emotions when it comes to being a mother. Absolutely agree with your last sentence 😉

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  2. I wish there was a manual! I also could not understand why mom was protective and now I do. You are right, everything is magnified and you know why your mom did what you are doing now. And yes, even when I swore I would never. And you’re spot on – it never ever stops. Thanks for sharing with #bigpinklink

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    • You know, if there was a manual, it would have to be written for every single child out there:)). In a way, isn’t this what us, mothers, do? Lifelong writing of a manual..Just a thought;)
      Thank you for sharing your opinion! Lovely day!

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